#In Dilemma
The important is to sort out who to let into your feelings and who not to, a partner is definitely NOT someone you should keep out, no matter how many times you've been hurt in the past. If you decide to have all the other benefits, you have to deal with the negatives as well, which means, opening up and risking it all, Heck!! It makes you stronger in the process.
Well, all I'm going to say is that, a good smart and sensible woman will NOT tolerate that, she won't think that you are a good guy deep down inside just protecting yourself, she'll think that you're just like the other wankers who treated her like crap, and it makes you no different from the people you despise.
I think everyone's too preoccupied with playing the game. There is NO loser in the game of love, if she moves on, you can also move on and eventually regain the control over your life, no matter the condition she left your heart in. You have to become stronger, not too gullible, not too harsh, because other than relationships, you need this sort of mentality to do life.
Speaking to my ex (whilst I was still dating him), he said the typical story; 'My first girlfriend cheated on me with my friend, so I find it hard trusting anyone. No one knows me, not even my closest friends.' and he looked deeply unhappy, admitting how it had limited him with making close friends and trusting people soon made him realized that sometimes s*** happens!!
He's not the only one to be hurt, as he explained how he protected himself against heartbreak, he began to realize that this barrier was also stopping us from going anywhere, and he let me in. Overwhelmed with emotion we hugged, he cried, and I didn't think any less of him, but guess what-- he was the one to break things off and stab me in the heart (LOL!!) - so should I never love again?
What do you think??
I think everyone's too preoccupied with playing the game. There is NO loser in the game of love, if she moves on, you can also move on and eventually regain the control over your life, no matter the condition she left your heart in. You have to become stronger, not too gullible, not too harsh, because other than relationships, you need this sort of mentality to do life.
Speaking to my ex (whilst I was still dating him), he said the typical story; 'My first girlfriend cheated on me with my friend, so I find it hard trusting anyone. No one knows me, not even my closest friends.' and he looked deeply unhappy, admitting how it had limited him with making close friends and trusting people soon made him realized that sometimes s*** happens!!
He's not the only one to be hurt, as he explained how he protected himself against heartbreak, he began to realize that this barrier was also stopping us from going anywhere, and he let me in. Overwhelmed with emotion we hugged, he cried, and I didn't think any less of him, but guess what-- he was the one to break things off and stab me in the heart (LOL!!) - so should I never love again?
What do you think??